The silence has been broken!

The amount of times I have written a post on here, apologising for my absence and such like is quite a handful now, and pretty much every time it’s because I’ve forgotten I have a blog (which is probably breaking rule one of having a blog).

Well for once it’s not because ‘I forgot I had a blog’, it’s literally because I have no idea what I want to write about. For me, writing a blog is about writing what you enjoy, what you’re  passionate about or even just a lifestyle post where I let you all know what I’m up to. I so wanted to write on here, so I’ve been so frustrated that I didn’t have any ideas on what to write about. I thought about maybe writing a review for a product or a film or what have you, but then I thought that those kinds of posts don’t really fit with my blog style and also I only want to publish posts that I’m proud of, so unfortunately it taken up until now for my silence to be broken!

Hopefully I’ll get another idea soon so I can get back into the swing of things, because I actually really enjoy having this place as an outlet for my thoughts and feelings! 

Time Zone.

So, the other day I was scrolling through facebook and I came across this post…

time zone

and it gave me peace. It made me smile. It basically just reminded me that life isn’t a competition, it’s not about who’s got the best paying job, or who’s had the best life experiences. Recently, I’ve just been comparing my life to so many other people’s. For instance it feels like everyone I know is pregnant at the moment! The worst thing I did recently was flick through linked in and have a look at what people in my year at school, or younger are doing for their careers, and it made me sad. I was looking at all these fancy titles they had, they has proper jobs, they weren’t working in retail like I have been for the last near 6 years of my life. They were working in London, they were climbing the career ladder, they were actually doing important things with their lives!

Well, this particular Facebook post brought me back to reality. So what if I wasn’t miles up my career ladder, so what if I wasn’t on a luxiourious  salary. To be quite honest, when I think about it, I might actually be living a life other people are jealous of. I don’t work in London which means, I don’t have to commute, or I don’t have to fork out double the amount in rent I would have to if I was living in London. I’m 22 and I’m married, how many other 22 year olds can say they’ve already been married for a year? I have a nice car, in fact me and Ryan both have a nice car, EACH! We don’t have to share which is a luxury to others. I don’t have children, which means I can sleep in as late as I want on my days off, I can be spontaneous if I want without having to think about having a babysitter.

Basically, the grass is always going to look greener on the other side, but in reality, the grass is greener where you water it. So really what i’m saying is. Don’t be so hard on yourself, your life is just a great than other peoples, heck, some people might even be jealous of your life. But, if you do want the life other people have got, then go and get it! It’s not going to appear on a plate for you, work for that promotion, look for a better paying job. However, make sure you make the most of the life you do have, because chances are, in a few years time you’ll be missing the old life you had!

Did I beat my sugar addiction?

So for those of you who have read my previous blog posts, you will know that I gave up sweets for lent, and let me tell you, those were the longest six weeks of my life!

For me, if I know I can’t have something it makes me want it more. Don’t get me wrong, there were times when I didn’t even think about sweets, but then there were times when that was all I could think about. The hardest times for me with my borderline sweet addiction were the evenings (especially when I was home alone) and when other people were eating them in front of my.

You might be disappointed to know that since lent has been over, yes I have had sweets, I haven’t given them up completely, but I have noticed a big change in the way I deal with cravings.

Lent has taught me what I pretty much should have already known. You can overcome cravings. For just over 6 weeks I was not allowed sweets, so when I faced a craving I just had to suck it up and either opt for something else, or just distract myself. So since lent has been over I can only name four occasions where I have eaten sweets, which in 2 weeks is really good for me (considering I was eating them on the daily before). It has helped me not to give into temptation, which is really helpful, because of two key factors;

1) It stops me from filling my body with sugar which according to research can feed cancerous cells in your body, rots your teeth, and is just generally bad for you!
2) It saves me money! Before I was spending up to £10 a week on sweets which over the year could add up to a whopping £520! Now that is some serious money being spent on sweets!

It hasn’t just helped me with my sugar cravings, but my craving in general. If I really get the urge for something I just think to myself, “No. I proved to myself that I could overcome my sweets cravings, therefore I will be able to overcome [insert craving here].

Basically, I have realised I have a lot more self control that I realised, I just need to put my mind to it, which in my books is a step in the right direction!

Uninspired…

As of late I have been feeling very lazy. I seem to have no get up and go, no motivation. I pretty much can’t be bothered to do anything. I am constantly having battles in my mind over the simplest of things. The most recent one being absolutely ridiculous… it’s that moment when you wake up in the middle of the night and you need the toilet. Well obviously it must be bad enough to wake me up so I should just get up and go right? WRONG! I seem to tell myself, no it’s not that bad just go back to sleep you’ll be fine, only to be woken up in 30 minutes and think ‘oh drat, I’m definitely going to have to get up now!’

Most normal people would just get up the first time to save themselves from potentially causing damage to their bladders/ kidneys. Oh no not me, I am a lazy girl, and lazy girls like being uncomfortable apparently (?!).

I’m not sure why i’m feeling like this. It’s not just the needing the toilet situation, it’s other things to. I can’t be bothered to tidy up and clean the house, I am having a constant battle telling myself either to get out of bed, or get up from the couch for sometimes a couple of hours. I don’t know why I don’t just do it the first time, because every, single, flipping time I end up doing what i’ve been deliberating over, I’ve just worn my mind out in the process! I recently have been feeling like I can’t even be bothered to go to work, not too sure why because I love my job and all my colleagues. It just seems like such unnecessary quibbles with myself, and quite frankly i’m fed up with it!

I keep thinking to myself ‘right, i’m going to buy loads of those self help books’, every time a YouTuber I watch mentions one I make a mental note to purchase it, then within about 5 seconds I think, what’s the point it’ll just sit on my shelf collecting dust! I’m even deliberating over the fact about how to fix my constant need to have battles in my mind! What is going on?!

So basically, after this, (let’s be honest) boring blog post, I leave a question for you all (it would be nice to get some answers because I am desperate for them). What do you do to keep yourself motivated, or if you have become unmotivated, what do you do to give yourself the kick up the bum you know you well and truly need?!

Signed, The Lazy Girl x

Sugar addiction?

As most of you may know, we are now in the season of Lent. From Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday, a lot of people give something up for lent. I myself have never done this. In my faith lent is not compulsory, I do not have a ritualistic religion, I have a relationship with God that does not require me to follow different rituals.

A lot of people who are not Christians also take part in Lent. As a way of giving something up that they know is bad for them, or to challenge themselves.

I, myself have decided to give up sweets. Now for someone who has never taken part in Lent you may be thinking, “why now then?”. Well in answer to your question it is for this reason: I feel that I was starting to get a sugar addiction. 

There has been a lot in the media over the last year or so about how they now believe sugar can be as addictive as some drugs. There have been documentaries on this and many articles written. They are now also finding that cancer feeds off of sugar and many people are giving up bad sugars in a way to slow cancerous cells from spreading.

I wouldn’t go as far to say I was addicted to sweets, but it was definitely becoming a problem. I am normally quite good at turning sweets and chocolate down, listening to my body and knowing that ‘I don’t need it’. Well in the last few weeks I have been feeling like I did need it. Not WANT it, but actually NEED it. That’s when I knew it was a problem.

I would find myself thinking ‘shall I pop to the shop on the way home and get some sweets?’ Normally I would tell myself ‘no I don’t need them’ but I was finding that the more I asked myself that question the less times I would answer myself with ‘no’. It even got to the point where I would send Ryan out just before the shops were closing, because I ‘needed my fix’ and would quite gladly eat them whilst in bed! 

I am also in a position where I want to take better care of my finances so spending £10 a week on sweets wasn’t really helping!

That’s why I’ve decided to give them up for lent. I knew I just had to go cold turkey because if I didn’t I would slip back into my sugar cravings! I need to break the bad habit that I’m starting to form, and take control back over my sugary desires! So far I’ve done really well, I’ve only craved them once and that was only when I saw someone else eating them!

I’ll let you know how I feel once Easter has arrived! Hopefully I would have solved the problem and not just want to go on a massive binge on good Friday!

Absorbing the word

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Jesus Christ. – Philippians 4:6-7

Recently I have really been trying to engrain all the truths the God speaks out to us in the Bible. Words of encouragement, words of peace and words of wisdom. Lately I have been feeling under the attack of the enemy, but not in plain sight, it’s been more of a subtle nagging in my ear. Things like “You’re rubbish with money. You’re lazy. You’re not good enough”. I have really felt like he has been testing my patience.

Don’t get me wrong, I have also been feeling like I am the strongest in my faith that I have been in such a long while, and that’s why I think these seeds of doubt have been placed in my head.

But I am taking control. I am refusing to listen to the lies, and instead I am going to rely on God to see me through any situations, big or small that I my face. I have been feeling so positive, so happy and so at peace, even when these lies have been whispered into my ear.

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. – 1 Peter 5v8

As Christians it is so important that we read the word and keep it in the for front of our mind because that is our biggest weapon against the enemy.

 

Must stay motivated!

So the first month of 2016 is nearly over and what have I accomplished? At first thought I would say pretty much nothing, but after taking the time to think about it I’ve thought of a couple of things…

I didn’t start this year with the whole “new year, new me” nonsense because no one ever seems to stick to this sorts of things and I didn’t want to set New Years resolutions as such but I did want to do something with this year so here is my list:

  1. Get closer to God
  2. Have a better control over the household finances
  3. Be happier
  4. Be bold

The one I would say I am doing best with is getting closer to God. Now some people might think oh that’s easy, you’re a Christian! When in actual fact it can actually be really hard! I am part of a world that pretty much has the attitude of ‘rules were made to be broken’ and ‘I don’t want to conform to the norm’ so in actual fact I am almost daily battling against the tide to live my life. A lot of people may think some of my morals and beliefs are outdated, which makes it even harder! Especially when there seems to be a hunger within society for people wanting to be accepted.

I too, want to be accepted like most people, but the difference is I am not willing to change myself as a person to gain that acceptance. Instead I surround myself with Christian people so when times come, I feel strong enough in my faith to be ‘the odd one out’, to have a different opinion, to be someone who is different.

I used to think being different meant I was weird and people wouldn’t talk to me, but I have actually found it to be the complete opposite. The more different I am to the society norms, the more people want to talk to me, the more questions I am asked, and the lore opportunities I have to talk about my faith to people!

So for all you Christians out there, don’t be afraid to be different to society, be excited and do it with pride! It really is one of the best ways to be a good witness and share the love of Jesus!
Mrs Legg